Shame is Useless... hear me out.

Shame sits like a weight in your body. It feels awful and causes harsh self judgement and criticism. It can even come with the belief that you deserve to feel that way.

Now, I am not saying it isn’t good to learn from your mistakes… to wish you had shown up differently in a certain situation… that you would have said or done something differently.

But when that comes in the form of shame growth isn’t possible.

So how do we learn from our mistakes? How do we witness the things we have done that we regret and grow from them?

Beneficial Regret.

Beneficial regret can still feel gross in the body but it is different!

What is the major difference?

Love.

Shame doesn’t come with self love. It comes with self loathing… self hate.

Shame tells you all the reasons you are horrible and will never change.

Shame keeps you stuck and small.

Beneficial regret shows you were you want to import. What you want to change. How you want to grow. But it never withholds self love.

Self love gives you a foundation to move forward and do your best to take imperfect action towards creating something new.

So I will say it again… SHAME IS USELESS.

You are worthy of love because you are human.

EVERY version of you deserves love because you are human.

Love is the foundation. Love is the medicine. Love is magic.

P.S. Unshaming is a powerful way of showing yourself love. Inside my group program, You Are Magic, you will find a safe and supportive space to begin unshaming yourself as you fall deeply in love with yourself, your ideas, and your magic.

P.P.S. Never forget, you are magic!